I just started reading a new book by Sam Red (@authorsamred) ‘She who is Unto Herself’ and it’s been one of those times where you feel like you were meant to pick up a certain book at a certain point in your life. Sam writes about self-empowerment and mindfulness. The practice of living completely in the present moment without regretting the past or fearing the future. I have to say, even though I’m only a third of the way through it’s aiding my thinking of ‘life’ in a whole new light.
Sometimes we become stuck in the rut of acting a ‘Victim’ to our experiences, when really the way we conduct ourselves in certain situations is our own choice. Without trying to get too personal, earlier in the year when my dad was diagnosed I couldn’t help but ask all the questions like ‘why him?’ and ‘why now?’ which I guess is only natural. Everybody deals with things in a different way but towards the end of his treatment I started to think about how him & I should live our lives according to this, and instead of being vulnerable to the situation, I let it empower me. ‘She who is Unto Herself’ states that painful life circumstances, which we all face at one point or another, lead us into a higher state of consciousness and honestly I couldn’t agree more.
I’m still not sure why it takes a kick up the backside, putting our noses out of joint for us to realize that we need a change. Humans are creatures of habit after all, but sometimes changing is a hell of a lot easier than staying the same – scary – but ultimately easier. Sometimes things can hold you back, ideals and expectations, that vision that presents itself in your head of how things could be. Holding on because you think it will make you happy is actually what is making you unhappy because you are not accepting where you are in your present. And you can apply this manner of thinking to any trials or tribulations in life. Obviously my dad becoming ill is far from ideal, but being strong for others and adding value to their lives is really what creates the difference from being a ‘victim’ and instead allowing those things be a catalyst for your own happiness.
Remember that you can take positives out of anything. Realization of realizations are real, I thought I had already accepted the fact that everybody has one life, a certain amount of years to do as they please, extraordinary or otherwise. But again and again life likes to remind me that we really don’t have shit guaranteed, you could take your last breath tomorrow and all that matters is how you live now, and that includes how you think about yourself and others inductive of your happiness.