Perhaps too often we settle because we don’t believe that we can achieve or materialize into anything higher. This can be in terms of writing, art, business, life. Sometimes this is because of what others tell us, or how we grew up maybe even our own self perception but your success will always be negotiable with you. I was thinking about this a lot while away and what I would tell somebody in my shoes a year or two ago and these are tips about writing and blogging in general, and in a business sense to pass on.
- Stay connected to your biggest source of confidence
What uplifts you? The same thing that makes you happy and proud will probably be connected to your passion. Anything we really want we work for without being asked which builds up our strength and ability. For me writing started like baby scribble and then when I started to focus it grew from there. When you start to invest in your ability you become more confident in it and you should be!
- Nothing is certain but anything is possible
Keep reminding yourself of this. For example you might have an ideal in your head which never materializes but what you are left with is something different – or better. This means that anything is possible and you are free to create and have fun with that. I suppose this is the same in business where you will have to improvise with the unexpected.
- Think of Your Weaknesses as your features
Don’t fear criticism because it’s your friend. My biggest weakness is thinking that people already know what I’m talking about so explanation of my point of view is something that I had to grow through others misunderstanding. Ultimately they all help to build your profile!
- Break the Mould
Firstly the one around you. Most of the time things are overdone, if you have another point of view or way of doing things then share it, maybe people will be more captivated by originality than similarity. Sometimes we can be hesitant to do this but it helps you improve. When I started ‘The Islands’ it was a stab in the dark and i’m pretty sure everyone was like ‘whaaaat?’ but a lot came out of it. Secondly – step out of your own comfort zone and try to see things through the eyes of others to gain different perspectives.
- Retain your simplicity
Simplify and clarify. In terms of writing/blogging – it doesn’t have to be miles long, just try to get your point across. Keep things simple and clear so you are better equipped to handle it all. I am guilty of trying to do too much with one thing sometimes so mastering that saves confusion and hopefully helps my readers.
I believe that writing needs and encourages empathy, and that empathy is the key to good storytelling. To know a character, you have to sympathize, you have to relate and understand their perspective, point of view. You have to live the life they live to understand what and how they feel. A character is a mindset, with which you have a range of emotions and feelings and experiences to exercise.
If you studied psychology you will be familiar with ‘A day in the life of’ – a technique used to determine an individuals perception of ‘stereotypical’ people. For writers it’s a useful tool for putting yourself in the shoes of another person entirely.
It’s great. Bad guys aren’t so bad when you are able to sympathize with what they have been through. Everyone has a story. Empathy encourages compassion which stems from the ability to love, which you need to have for all of your characters, in order for them to blossom.
I hope you enjoy my first few snippets and perspectives, so far I have found it quite challenging but I used some of my own emotions and experiences which helped. Try it for yourself too – make a different bed than your own, write about those that are weak or vulnerable and be creative with it!!
“Superrb blog! Do you have any tips and hihts for aspiring writers?
I’m hopinng to start my own blog soon but I’m a little lost on everything.
Would you propose starting with a free platform like WordPress or
go for a paid option? There are so many choices out there that I’m completely confysed
.. Any recommendations? Cheers!”
Hey! I hope you don’t mind me publicly replying to this (maybe there are others that feel the same). Firstly thank you for reading and for showing love! I hope I can answer you adequately enough.
When I started the blog, it was because I needed other people to see my work, respond to it, I was craving that writer – reader interaction that helps you assess how other people respond to/view your words. It was also an outlet, a distraction (at that time) but the best kind.
I had been thinking about ways in which I could reach out to people, and connect to other writers, i.e writing forums, but I decided that I wanted something that was just mine. I initially chose WordPress because I knew someone that had used it, I didn’t know how to do anything at first, so I started off with a free platform (Perfect for students). I didn’t think about buying my current one, and transferring to a paid site until I was more experienced with how to host a website. Do whatever is best for you and what you are comfortable with – there is so much help out there about how to get started, and sites like WordPress will help you along the way because they are tailored to beginners. You will learn as you go along!
Also, you’re not an ‘Aspiring Writer’ – you are a Writer! Be honest with yourself, about yourself, your emotions and experiences and don’t be afraid to put that into whatever you choose to create. There is a reader for everything and sharing your work will only help you to improve, not only in skill but in confidence! Connect with other writers and readers and ask for criticism, feedback but learn to enjoy the process too.
If you ever need a second opinion but don’t want to publish just yet, feel free to ask me to read it – firstname.lastname@example.org.