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5-Minute Philosopher

So I decided to spend some time behind the camera and put my friends on the spot, Lauren (@Laurenpearson_x) was the first to answer the 5 Minute Philosopher questions adapted from Stylist Magazine. Loved reading through all of her answers and identified with the majority of them too! Enjoy!

What is the meaning of life?

I believe that everyone/everything has a purpose and everything happens for a reason. There is more to life than the one we live on earth, but while we are on this earth, to live means to be the best version of ourselves for our own happiness, to enjoy the things we love, love the things we do and the friends/family we have, to free ourselves of social pressures, meet goals, and make memories that leave a stamp when we aren’t around. True freedom and true happiness is what gives life a meaning. In a nutshell- we come to conquer and then we die, so we do the best we can with the hand of cards that are dealt to us  & live our best life in between.

Where is your happy place?

My happy place is never a specific place but with the people I’m with. For example, a simple coffee with a friend, or dinner with family.

Do you think it is more important to be liked or respected?

Respected 100%.

What do you think makes a good friend?

Taking time out to talk and listen to one another. Knowing when the other needs to be picked up (which may mean self-sacrifice of a hangover after numerous tequilas), being there at the click of a finger, making the best memories- going on adventures & growing (old) together.

Benefit Sun Beam or Fenty KillaWatt?

Not going to lie- I didn’t know what they are, so I’d go for the latter based on the reviews.

If you could be remembered for one thing, what would it be?

Being the person that could cheer anyone up.

Who or What is your greatest love?

Probably food, since it’s the main thing I get FOMO with.

If you could choose one superpower what would it be?

To be able to Teleport.

Describe your perfect holiday:

Enjoy a nice breakfast with freshly squeezed fruit juice or iced coffee, sun bathe allllll day ft. some kayaking, snorkelling, beach volleyball etc.  A nice couple of boat trips and adventures. Then lovely big dinners, wine & cocktails until I feel uncomfortable and want to get back to the hotel room to get into something comfortable followed by deep late-night conversations on the balcony.

What book would you recommend to others?

I’m not much of a reader but one book that has always stuck with me is “A thousand splendid suns: By Khaled Hosseini”

Confess your unpopular opinion:

The Queen Elizabeth trains are rubbish!

Pasta or Pizza?

Both please?

08/10

I feel as though recently there has been a narrative circulating that individuals thrive when they adopt the attitude that they don’t need anyone else. I think subliminally it’s been picked up from social media, reading different articles and even in general conversation, the belief that being able to stand alone is preferable and reliability on others is weakness.

Don’t misunderstand when I say that everybody needs a support system, because I agree that we need to be strong as individuals too. At 24 most of my decisions are selfish, I get up in the morning and lead the day I want to lead. I go to work for me, I work on my fitness for me, I shop for me and I socialise for me. When I am going through something it’s in my character to go through it alone, but the idea that as Human’s we don’t one another is alien. I am able to do all of the above things because I have a network of people around me that I can count on when I need them and vice versa.

I think females sometimes convince themselves that they don’t need men, and men that they don’t need females. Perhaps this also correlates with the mirroring concept that people will only be what you show them to be or to think. Realistically we do need the opposite sex, not only as partners but as father/mother figures, as brothers/sisters and as colleagues and friends. Feeding into and maintaining it is counterproductive and unrealistic.

I like to believe that the perfect balance exists. That because no two people are the same there is beauty in interacting with another completely different to yourself. Where someone falls short, the other makes up. Feeding into the ideology that none of us need anyone is dangerous and evolves an existing self-fulfilling prophecy…

 

Holding On

Perhaps you are meant to hold on
until you can’t feel you fingers
until you cannot tell two sets of hands apart
Perhaps you are meant to say you care
in every way there is to say it without words
Until you bruise and lose your grip
Perhaps you are meant to keep
that bite with gritted teeth
Until it teaches you how to
absolutely yet graciously,
Let go

© elena andrean