12/09 – Mirrors

I never know how to start these because my thoughts usually come out of nowhere, so I’m just going to jump straight in…

I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to mirror the other people in our lives, and how our experiences are shaped by this. For example, how you think about a certain situation can literally determine the outcome of that situation – ‘thoughts become things’. If you know me personally, you know I love using that saying. It is so easy to let your perspective become the complete narrative, when actually it is only yours. How you think/feel/react to anything in your life belongs to you and not others. The whole story is barely grasped by you alone.

I think it’s important from this to understand how little we actually matter in terms of other peoples decisions and actions. And this can be apparent in any aspect of your life, work life, within relationships or family, certainly friendship too. Something that somebody else does may trigger you, but it’s more likely that they have done that whilst thinking and feeling in themselves, and not in a reaction to you.

The clarity that you give to a situation or experience will, in my opinion quite literally affect its outcome.  Your construct of what is happening will seep out into every interaction – whatever that may be – physically, emotionally. And eventually the receiver will mirror that back to you, physically, emotionally. What you put in will always be what you get back out. If you want respect, give it. If you want love, give it. If you want forgiveness, understanding, reassurance, give it. It might not come from the source you are expecting but that is what you will receive.

I guess this also says a lot about perception. Most people’s perceptions depend on how they see themselves, standing in their own lives. You see most things from where you are, so if you are feeling distant from a certain friendship, perhaps you have created that distance in your head from your assumed perception (mostly this stems from our own fears) but if you then mirror that to the respective person, how can they not mirror it back to you, completing the narrative you created in the first place…

Happy International Woman’s Day!


Maya Angelou – Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Loving what you do v/s doing what you love


Work is joyous
And like play
When you learn
Something new
Find new ways
And when it starts to happen
It won’t lead to dismay
Because you love what you do
And you don’t need to escape.
The thrill will keep you going
And discoveries will keep you alive
In doing what you love
You will be able to
Love what you do
And take everything else in stride.
Often you’ll face frustration
But remember to keep going
If doing what you love
Or loving what you do
Is worth staying.
For all through your lives
You’ll struggle to find
What it is you love
Or if you love anything at all
Instead of hoping that you get what you love
Start loving what you hold.

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I am a woman~by Hela Tekali


I am a woman

I am a woman with
An impossible dream
I dare enough
Against the current to swim

I am a lover, I am a dreamer
I have so passion in my heart
The more I humiliate myself,
The more I feel love, and
The more I feel dignified
The more my soul
bearing so much suffering is
with love purified

I am a mystic lover,
I am longing for courtly love
I am a Troubadour,
I am fond of obstacles
And the taste of its Holy Oracles

My love takes pleasure
In making itself suffering
When seeking humiliation
Is itself a form of soul redemption

I am a lover, I am a dreamer
I am a passionate admirer
I am an adventure seeker
I am a woman with an
Impossible dream
I am a stubborn spirit
Striving to see my flickering
Light shining brightly
On full beam

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